Getting it right on Mothers’ Day

Posted on Mar 4, 2013 in Blog |

Getting it right on Mothers’ Day

Getting it right on Mothers’ Day


It’s one day a year, and you better not forget it!  Why are there such high expectations on Mothers’ Day?

It’s easy to get caught up in the commercialism of Mothers’ Day, with the huge amount of advertising for cards, flowers, and presents, and restaurants and hotels promising the best treats

Mothers’ Day is now celebrated by 46 countries throughout the world.   It started Anna Jarvis who campaigned for a day of recognition, after the death of her own mother, helped by activist Julia Ward Howe.  The aim was to encourage everyone to show appreciation for the work and dedication of mothers, and to strengthen family ties.  They promoted wearing of a coloured carnation for living mothers, and a white carnation for mothers who had passed away.  In later years Anna Jarvis protested about the commercialisation saying:

‘A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write to the woman who has done more for you than anyone in the world.’

Anna Jarvis


The job of a mother has always been to feed and protect, to support and encourage, and to train and develop children.  Some mothers have always been better at this than others, and some have found it easier.  For most women it has included a huge number of selfless acts, often not seen or acknowledged.  Maybe this is why mothers’ can be very offended by not being remembered on the day, however old their children are.

Is it enough to send a card, or flowers?  Well it ticks the box on remembering that it’s Mothers’ Day, but does it show your care and appreciation?  As with so many things in life, it is not so much what you do, but the meaning of it.

Of course some children are not very grateful to their parents.  Your mother is yours, for better or for worse.  Sometimes she won’t have matched up to what you wanted in a mum.  Maybe your mother didn’t fit the idealised stereotype of the all giving Mother Nature.  Usually they did the best they could at the time.  The truth is that motherhood is difficult, and often requires strength and sacrifice.  Mothers usually want to be recognised, whether they have been good or bad, by their own standards or the standards you have set for them.

There are many different mums with different skills and abilities, and there are many different children.  Sometimes it’s a good match, and other times there are difficulties.  Mums are usually trying to be the best parent they can be to each of their children, sometimes that is easy, and sometimes it’s much harder.  Mothers want to know when they are doing a good enough job, or a great job, and Mothers’ Day provides the opportunity to express those feelings.  It could be expressed in a card or with a present, but it can also be expressed in acts of kindness and words of appreciation.

So this year, get it right on Mothers’ Day and take the time, and the trouble, to show your appreciation to an important woman in your life.